This would be a good post in the online hamster thread. The following is what I said about this article in the online hamster thread, I think it still stands: I quickly went through the comments (over 400 of them), and perhaps one or two that I saw acknowledged the obvious…she's fat, borderline obese. A vast majority of comments are "You're beautiful, it's online dating that sucks and your profile needs work".
As a writer and a marketer, it should have been almost effortless to create a dazzling dating profile.
No awkward pick-up lines, or reading between the lines.
Patrice Bendig is a Philadelphian who is trying to survive her twenties and not trip down any steps. John's University, but has made a career in managing non-profit social media and multimedia platforms. She hopes to be able to connect with people through her writing, so that other people can feel a little less alone when they're going through issue.
When she's not working or trying to find a new hobby Patrice enjoys playing and singing along to her radio at loud volumes, annoying people with her camera, and drinking massive amounts of ice coffee.
Moving out of my parents house would mean learning how to live on a strict budget, resulting in many ramen noodle dinners the week before payday. As a single, straight female living in a metropolitan neighborhood, one would think that it would be fairly simple to meet men.
However, I did not expect that my dating life would be this difficult. I’m not a huge drinker, so the bar scene has never really been my thing.
These women just put themselves in an endless cycle of depression, validation, rejection, depression, validation…when all they have to do is focus on self improvement.
I know that takes actual effort as opposed to BS validation. The funny thing about this is that her experience matches basically 80% of men's dating website experiences too - ones who aren't 75 pounds overweight, are employed and have relatively interesting profiles.
You can read her other musings on her blog, Quarter Life Writings and view her portfolio at